9 - Perks of having a boy bestfriend

A boy bestfriend, you are a lucky girl if you have some guy who is you friend but you are luckier if you have a boy best friend. They say that if you have a best friend in the opposite sex, one of you is inlove to the other or maybe both of you are in love with each other but you don't want to sacrifice your friendship to have a much serious relationship that is why you just keep your feelings to him or her. But for me not all opposite sex best friends are in love, some of them are mature enough to know their limits and where they only stand in each other's life, I'm not telling that a best friend who is in love with her best friend is immature, no. Ther have their sides, maybe they just can't control their feelings anymore or maybe they are in love before they even became friends. So let's go back to the topic, some of them are really mature and can control their self. So in this topic I will enumerate the Perks of having a boy best friend. Here they are: 

• He knows boys

If a boy hurts you he is the number one person you will go to because he gives the best advice ever! When you go to your girl friends, they will just tell you to break up with the guy or so whatever but if you go to your boy best friend, he will understand the boy's point of view and he will tell you if that guy is really an a*shole and j*rk

• He will tell you if you are wearing a too revealing clothes

Yes they do, even if they're guys they will scold you if you are not wearing a proper attire. Sometimes they let you wear it but he will tell you if your skin is already showing and he will tell you to fix that thing. You won't feel queer when he does that because you are so comfortable with him. 

• You will know more about boys

By this I meant that you will be open-minded. When boys are around you it is unavoidable for them to talk about these stuffs, you won't get it at first but it will be explained to you, not only for curiosity but also for keeping you safe because you can avoid doing the things they are talking about. 

• You will get a chance to be one of the boys

Because you will get to hangout with his friends and most of them are boys. Sometimes you are the only girl in the group and you will have much more friends in the opposite sex. 

• He can teach you how to play DOTA

Most of the boys like girls who play DOTA and it is also an advantage for a girl to know how to play DOTA because she will understand why a boy is obsessed with that game. Girls can ask her boy best friend to teach her how to play that game and be more attractive. 

• He can be your tutor

Yeap, especially when he is smarter that you or he is good at the subjects you're not good at. For me, I' am much more comfortable that boys tutor me instead of girls. I guess I'm used to it. 

• You can have a 50% chance that you will be comfortable to other boys too

You will be comfortable  with him and most boys are 25%-50% same so it is a big chance that you can be close to other boys too because you know how to talk to them, what kind of topic interest them and what are the things they like. 

• He is your adventure buddy

When you want to hangout or go somewhere he can be there to be your companion or if you want to go on an adventure that is something dangerous or something boyish, he can come with you and take good care of you. 

I know these stuffs because I have a boy best friends. with 's' because I have two.

First is Geroe (the one I' am with at the picture at the left side) I grew up with him, he is my uncle/childhood pal. He is my best friend since our crib days because our age gap are only six months so we grew up together and we also studied at the same school for twelve years. We only go to our own paths in our college life because I choose APC and he choose LPU. But it's okay because that can't stop our communication. 

My second boy best friend is Prince. We may have known each other for just three years but it's like we know each other since our birth. He is the one who is always there for me all the time. he is just one text away and I assure you that he will reply. That is why I' am lucky to have a best friend like him and I' am so sure that our relationship is just best friends because we are both mature enough to know our limits. He knows all my problems, he may not be there in my happy moments but I'm sure that he is there in my darkest moment, and that's what really matters.

So these are the perks of having a boy best friend, trust me it is so much fun to be friends with boys and be one of the boys. No dramas, backstabbers, just happy moments 

8 - Pretending

Did you ever smile in front of everyone but not really feel like doing it? Did you ever laugh with them but deep inside you are crying? Did you ever say you are okay but you know that you are so much hurt? If yes, you are called Eccedentesiast.

Eccedentesiast or a a pretender. All of us pretend, maybe not often but sometimes, but all of us do. When you hear the word pretender you think that it is a negative thing but no, it's not. It also has a positive meaning when you look deep into it. Every pretender has its own reason why he or she does that. But the main reason is, she doesn't want anyone to worry about her that is why she is showing that she is okay so no one else will suffer but her. She is carrying all the pain all alone so don't judge her. Even though she has a choice to tell it to her friends, she chooses not to. Another reason why she fakes a smile because she doesn't want anyone to pity her. 

For me, eccedentesiast people are strong, brave, and independent because even though it is really hard for them to smile, laugh or even live, they still do, not only for them but also for others. Because when others see them sad, they will ask her what is wrong and maybe her sadness will be a problem for others. Strong because she carries it all alone even though she knows that she is so weak at the moment, Brave because even though it's already hard for her she is still trying and she is not giving up, and last Independent because she can stand alone with her head up high facing everyone with a smile that is not really true and that smile is saying that she is a fighter and because of that I salute her. 

She is alone, she is at her weakest point, she cries when she's all by herself because no one will see her and she knows that no one will ever understand what she's going through. But did you know that most of them are just waiting for a person to hug and tell them "Everything is going to be okay. Even if things don't feel okay right now, someday it will be" But when? When will someone recognize the sadness in her eyes? And another question is who? We don't know but one thing is for sure, that person who will tell her that is the person who knows her so much. Even though that person won't understand her, it's okay at least that person will comfort her, wipe away the tears in her eyes and that person will never leave her. 

This kind of girl, you never really know what is going on inside her head, you never really know how hard it is for her to get up, you never really know what she has been through. You don't know anything because all you see is her smile, her laugh, and her activeness. Psychology says that most of the people who are hyper, naughty, and active are the saddest ones. I can say that is is really true and they are also quiet when it comes to talking about their self. 

I salute this kind of people, because I know how strong they are and I also understand them because for once in my life I became one of them, or am I still one until now?

7 - To the boy who left me for another girl.

Hi, so how are you? It's been a month since we officially broke up. I thought it's really my fault why you have been so cold for the past few weeks of our relationship, I thought I was just really immature because that is what you told me, I thought you just need your time alone and you're busy with your studies, but I know that I’m just fooling myself to believe all this because I don't want to accept the fact that you don't love me anymore and you're in love with someone else and you already left me. It's hard to accept the fact because I love you, so much. But I guess the only constant thing in this world is change, and your feelings already changed.

"Forever and Always" that is what you told me, but I guess your forever only lasted for a few months. How am I you may ask? I'm good, trying to bring back the old me, the person who is happy with her life even though you are not a part of it. I was happy before you came, I'm contended with my life, but you came destroying my quiet world. I'm not regretting that I let you inside my life or blaming you, because I know for a fact that I ‘am happier when I was with you. You turn my quiet life to a joyful one, it's like I'm in a carnival riding a carousel but you came and ride with me at the roller coaster, it was that fun, amazing, unexpected. But just like any other rides, there is always an end, well maybe this is 'our' end. We had a lot of memories together, celebrating monthsaries, watching movies every month, random dinner dates, simple love quarrels and joy rides at night when everybody are asleep and dreaming we're busy exploring the city. I thought those were enough for us to be together, but no, its not enough because if it is, you wouldn't leave, you wouldn't get tired with me.

I became a fool because of loving you, instead of listening to my brain I listen to my stupid heart because of my love for you but you fooled me, you let me believe that I’ am the only one, that I 'am enough for you, but the truth is I’m not. Even though you’re cold to me I stayed because I know that I’ am the only one, a month later I’m already getting tired of our relationship, so I just don’t talk to you anymore but we don’t have any closure, we became okay after a week then one day you just told me that I should stop already, because you and the other girl is already together. It just hurts the heck out of me, really. But I have nothing to do anymore, if you love someone you just let them go so I let you go and let you be happy.

It still hurts me because I loved you, but at the same time I’ am happy because I let someone like you get off my life. I actually feel sorry for the girl because you might do the same thing you did to me to her. And I know that I deserve someone better than you, someone who will be contended, won’t look at other girls, and won’t change me because he loves me just the way I’ am. I hope that you will be happy, even though you hurt me, you became a part of me that I will never forget and you made me happy. I will always remember how much you cared but I have to move on and be happy with my life without you. 

6 - Pros of having a Brother

My recent blog, the 3^rd one is all about the Cons of having a brother. It is negative so I want to balance it that’s why now I will blog about the Pros of having a brother. Having a brother is not only about the negative side, it also have a positive side especially when you're a girl.

Pros: 

• You have someone to annoy 24/7

Even though you're the eldest one sometimes your childish attitude will really come out and when that happen your main goal is so piss you brother. Even though he's not in the mood for you will still piss him until you feel satisfied. Sometimes you even use his girlfriend to piss him, for example "Your girlfriend is so ugly" or "Kelan kayo magbebreak ni *insert name of girlfriend*?" I'm a crazy and annoying sister I know. But it just makes my day when I piss my brother hehe.

• You have your very own fashion stylist (boy version)

Most of us would make your sister your fashion stylist but a brother can also be one. He can tell you what you really look like even though he will already offend you. For example:                

You: "Kuya what do you think of my outfit?" 

Him: "You look stupid"          
          

Well yeah, they are like that, they are honest with you about what you wear and not only that because they can tell you what boys want girls to wear or what outfit you should wear to make the boys turn their head on you. They are boy’s duuh.

• You don't need to worry if you have a left over

He is always your backup if you can't finish your food. You will just give it to him because he's a guy, he eats a lot, twice or thrice as you do if he can. So you won't feel guilty for not finishing your food. He will finish all the food you can't take anymore, he will just say "Just leave it there, I will get it later." He can also be your 'tagahimay' yeap, especially when you're really spoiled to him.

• Instant Yaya

You can ask him to do this, do that, do whatever you want him to do, especially when you’re older than him. And also when you need to carry a heavy object he's there so you can just ask him to do it for you, or if you can't reach the object, you can ask him to get it for you because obviously he is much taller than you, that is why he annoys you that you are small.  

• You will feel safe when you're going out with him 

Because when you're with him boys can't look at you nor be near to you, with just one look of your brother to that guy, he will already run away. He is your fence when you're out with him some of the bad people will not target your for snatching nor raping because you have a guy with you and he is your protector. He is even willing to kill someone when they hurt you, physically or emotionally.

• You have someone to help you in doing the household choirs

Does he have a choice? Absolutely NOT! Simply because you will tell your parents that he did not do anything but to face the computer all day and play DOTA or talk to him girlfriend 24/7, so he doesn't have a choice but to help you. You can even ask him to do the laundry for you and clean the house, but you can't trust him all this because you have no idea how men work, I’m not referring to all men but some of them really don't have any idea at doing the household choirs. It's even good for them that you ask them to do that because in the future when they are already married, he can use it and his wife will be impressed. 

• You have someone who can drive you anywhere/teach you how to drive/fetch you anywhere

And when you're already the one driving he is very nervous well because he doesn't trust you with his life especially when you’re the one driving, bad brother right? But it is an advantage because you can ask him and not your dad anymore to teach you how to drive and if he doesn't want to teach you, you will blackmail him. Also he can be your fetcher if you still don't know how to drive, just a phone call away especially when it's late.  He can also drive you anywhere, when he's on a great mood he is your road trip partner. 

• If he's older than you, you have someone who will pamper and spoil you 

Most of the older brothers spoil their little sister, he gives her anything she wants and she on the other side really ask for everything, by everything I mean all that she wants will be given to her by her brother because if he doesn't give it, the sister will huff to his brother or she will have her tantrums. 

• He can be your adviser about boys

When you and your boyfriend are quarrelling he is the first person you should talk to especially when you can't understand your partner, you brother will be the one that show you who is the one really wrong in your problem and if you are the one he will let you realize that and advice you on what to do.

• He knows if a boy is serious to you is he's just joking around

 He is a boy so he knows boys, like the other pro he will advice you and he can already sense if a boy is good for you or will just hurt you at the end of the day. he is also like your mother who can sense the people around you. Sometimes he is a playboy so he knows the acts of a playboy so you should really listen to him.

• You can blame him to all the mistakes you have done

And he is the one mommy and daddy will be angry at, not you. This will always happen when the brother is elder than you, when you break a toy or a vase you will point him and you will tell your parents that it's his fault why you broke the vase because he's running after you which is true so he can't do anything about it.

5 - Reunited with the Best Girls

From left to right: I, Cyril, and Bianca. *Insert Jam because she's not on the picture*

They are my best of friends sice my grade-school says, they are really the best. Today, July 6, 2015, we reunited! Finally after a year or so we already had a time to hang out, although we had a time before but we are not complete, sometimes it's just me and Bianca or Bianca and Cyril or Cyril and Jam. It's easy for them to hangout because Cyril and Jam both studies at De La Salle University Manila while Bianca is studying at University of Santo Tomas. I know, I'm the only one who studies in Makati that's why I had a hard time to have a free time to hangout with them. Our original plan is this Wednesday, but since our classes got suspended earlier we just moved it today. Like what they say "Mas natutulog ang biglaang lakas kesa sa planado." And it is really true, based on experience. They are so lucky their classes will start on August, unlike me I only have a week or two left before my midterm exams. 

I really missed them especially Cyril because we haven't seen each other for more that a year! We met at exactly 2:30 p.m. at Coffee Bean, first it was just me and Cyril until Bianca came then Jam. We are so crazy because we only ordered one frappe and two cookies because they have no classes yet so no allowance as well, they even old me that I should be the one who will buy because I'am the only one who have a class. I really miss our craziness. We talked about random stuffs like: our college life, love life, our batch mates and how are they doing, but most of all we talked about gossips hihi. We totally love is especially when we make fun of people and the things they do, I know that it is bad but it's our happiness, so deal with it HAHA. We talked how they are and about our studies, all I can say is that I'm lucky because I haven't failed any subjects yet because they are really having a hard time passing because they really have strict professors unlike me I have good professors and I hope that I won't fail any subjects. They said that having a failing grade at their school is really normal; if you don't have any failing grade then they see you as a genius kid. 

Anyway enough of talking about those, let's talk about them. Just like what I said at the first sentence of the first paragraph they are my best friends since grade school. Bianca became my best friend when we were still in 3rd Grade, while Cyril when we were in 6th Grade and Jam when we were First year high school. They are my true friends because they didn't left me when everybody does and they accepted me for who I' am. One more thing about us, we may not talk for ages but if we talk there is no awkwardness between us and we know that we are still best friends that is why I' am so lucky to have them. We hang out for almost three hours, because by 5:30 I need to go home, and it's raining, we don't wanna be stranded at Starmall. No goodbyes just see you soon. We are planning to hangout again soon because three hours are so not enough for us, we need like a whole week to hangout. I really miss them and if only I could go back to being a kid again where we were still 'nenes' and being the only noisy group at the cafeteria. 

4 - BGC with ze Babes

Yesterday, July 3 2015, first Friday of the month, our first subject doesn't have a professor, so FREE CUT!! Yay!! So we have a total of six hours break, who will not love that huh? Of course no one, HAHA. Besides it's just our 2nd free cut this term so we are eager to go our and have some fun. Our next class is at 1:30 pm, it's boring at the school so we head out. We are: Shen, Janella, Yesha, Kat, Marc, Jhenina and Jade. First we don't know where to go, we are choosing between Ayala and BGC. They want it far so we go to Bonifacio Global City or BGC. I'm so lucky i already been to BGC without any car or by only commuting because none of them knows how to get there by riding a jeep, my block mates are really rich, deal with it. So we rode a jeep to Gate 3 and another jeep to Market Market. As we arrive at the place, the malls are not yet open, it's only 9:15 and the mall will open at 10 am so we need to wait. We just took groupies around, we're so vain HAHA. Here are some of the pictures.

Happy kiddos! Hihi. When the mall already opened they ate at Pepper lunch, 'they' because I have 'baon' because I'm trying to save money for the SOCSIT week. After we eat we just roam around SM Aura, took pictures at the 4th or 5th floor, I can't really remember, south girl here HAHA. Again, we are so effin' vain! Because of too much pictures, I just made it a GIF so it will be cuter to look at. Here it is.

And here are our Squad pictures, we asked the guard to take a picture of us so we will be complete already. 

From left to right: I, Shen, Jhenina, Kat, Jade, Janella and that is Marc splitting.

This adventure will never be complete if I don't have a solo picture right? So here is my solo picture. Trying to have a candid shot hehe. 

By 11:30 we already head back to APC because we will have a quiz on our next class so we need to study. We rode a taxi from Market Market to Alphaland, like what I said they are really rich unlike me, 'poorita' hehe. We are so tired so while we are waiting to the shuttle we.... 

This Friday is really awesome because I got a chance to bond with my new block even though they are incomplete (Well because the boys play DOTA). But I really had a great time with them; they are so fun to be with because just like me, they are crazy too, but they are crazier. I hope we will still have free cut classes next time, just kidding HAHA.

3 - Cons of having a brother.

What is a Brother? According to Google it is a man or boy relation to other sons and daughters of his parents, but for me it is more than that, A brother is someone who is with you all throughout your life, he is your partner in crimes and your savior, but at the same time he is the most annoying person you will ever meet and a blackmailer as well. Having a brother have a Positive and Negative sides, But first let is list all the negative sides or the Cons of having a brother.

Cons: 

• He hates dolls so the tendency is he will break your doll's head. 

Especially when he's younger than you and your ages are just 1-3 years apart. You will just be surprised that your doll is already broken, not only younger brothers do this but also older brothers? You may ask why? Because they want to annoy you and piss you, or maybe they wanna experiment your doll, weird right?

• He hates shopping

While you love it, and when you will go out with him and you will check out new clothes or new collection at your favorite store, while he is there already bored or if you will ask him if the dress is cute, he will just answer "Yeah, it's okay" like wtf, that is why I brought you with me, but you’re just there acting as if you hate the mall. But if you bring him at the arcade he will transform to a little kid.

• He is very annoying!

You just wanna kill him because of his annoying face, annoying voicem annoying hobby, for short annoying EVERYTHING. And the fact that he wants to annoy you, for example you're just at your room, reading or chilling, he will just enter without any knock and tease you about stupid things or he will scare you with an insect or something that you hate. Very ANNOYING! 

• His room is very messy

It's like you will never ever see the floor again and sometimes it even stinks, gross right. Sometimes he even left his leftovers in his room and all his things are scattered everywhere!

• His taste for music is so much different from yours

Especially when he likes rock genres and you love classical or chill genres. You will hear everything that he will play because he wants it loud, by loud I mean VERY loud. And when you're at the car and he's playing his songs, gosh you just wanna step out and commute instead. Or worse, you will have a 'Different-music-genres-playing-all-at-the-same-time' kind of war at home.

• You have to be his fashion stylist

Duuh like you have a choice, even though you really hate it because he is so slow in picking out the clothes. And sometime he will use your parents against you and even talk to your parents so they will ask your permission to style him. 

• If he is older that you, expect that he will be extra strict

All elder brothers are strict to their baby sister/s or even baby brother/s; sometimes they are much stricter that your parents and he is also over protective of you, when you will go out, he will have to fetch you (it's a good things sometimes) and know who you are with or are you with some boys or if you already have a boyfriend. They need to know EVERYTHING! Like they are your secretary or bodyguard, and before you will let a guy court you, you should have their permission or approval first because it not, your Dead (And the guy too)

Here are some of the cons, but even though he/they are like that he/they loves you no matter when and only want the best for you. And one more thing, after your mother, you're the most important girl in his life